The Danger of Comparison

I Don't Like Competition

By: Dani

Lots of times I feel like everyone else is better than me. I think a lot of kids feel like that.

My friends and I talk about how we don't like to compete, but we end up comparing ourselves anyway. So Grandma asked me to Google some places online that teach about the danger of comparison. And she helped me to put this together.

There are people in nearly every field of work who make each day a work of art by the way they do their craft. In other words, nearly everyone is an artist in one way or another. And every artist will judge their work. The key is to not let your self-judgment keep you from doing your thing. – Martha Graham

Grandma says the most important thing for me to do every day is to write about what's most important to me.

Yesterday I told her that I feel like everyone else is better than me. She said, "That's a controlling belief that will limit you all the rest of your life. You need to tackle that limiting belief with the TRUTH!"

She says, the truth is that every day I get a chance to make my day a piece of art. And this art is how I worship God. God doesn't want me to be like everyone else. He's not upset if I color outside the lines. 

She says I'm unique. And it's okay to make mistakes. In fact, she tells me all the time to go ahead and fail as many times as I can! Because failing is how I learn what doesn't work and what will work.

A friend and I have a great bond and we are like each other. But we struggle a lot. That is not going to separate us.

But something is really trying to push us down, even though she does not know what she is doing. I do know she is not doing it on purpose, because I just know her and she does her best.

I see  in her eyes that she is trying as hard as she can, but something is  stopping her. I do not know everything but I do know a lot that people won't understand.

Maybe if I tell her how I really feel, she will not want me to feel bad. And we can work together on this.

"Comparison is a thug that robs your joy. But it’s even more than that — Comparison makes you a thug who beats down somebody – or your soul." – Ann Voskamp

Grandma suggested I print out this article by Ann Voskamp called "How the Hidden Dangers of Comparison are Killing Us {And Our Daughters}: The Measuring Stick".

I don't want to feel like everyone is better than me anymore. How about you? Have you ever felt like that?

Love,

Dani

Have you been encouraged here today?

8 Comments

  1. peacebestill

    I've been inspired by what we learned together today, Dani. Ann Voskamp's article is eye-opening.

    Women, in particular, seem to struggle with comparing ourselves to each other. Hardly any one of us is happy with our bodies, our finances, our job… 

    If you can learn to be happy with yourself, even when you goof up, you will have learned how to be happy, period. It's really hard to fail. It's even harder to fail when someone else is winning. 

    If you can be happy when a friend succeeds and you don't, you will be one of the happiest people in the world, indeed!

    I think it's more important to be happy with yourself, than to think of yourself as the smartest, prettiest, or most successful person in your sphere of influence. I'd rather be happy, anyway!

    As I get older and I notice all those wrinkles and flabby places you enjoy pointing out to me, I find myself loving myself even more… because it gets harder to love your body as it ages.

    So I need even more love from me to myself! And more love for myself means more love for everyone else. You can't help but love others when your own love tanks is continuously full!

    I don't have it all mastered yet, but we can help each other, can't we? 🙂

     
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  2. Dani Erika (Post author)

    Thank you grandma for saying that 🙂 :):):):):):):):) 

     
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  3. Dani Erika (Post author)

    🙂 🙂    ðŸ™‚

     
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    1. Dani Erika (Post author)

      😛

       

       
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  4. Wayland Duerschmidt

    Wow, that was quite an insightful story Dani.  Good work.

     
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  5. peacebestill

    I discovered from Anita Mathias today that Brennan Manning, one of my ultimate favorite authors, said this following prayer often, and I believe this is the secret to eliminating the sting of comparison:

    In his excellent The Ragamuffin Gospel, Brennan Manning mentions the limited Antonio Salieri, court composer to the Holy Roman Emperor, who was conscientious, devout, and wildly jealous of the wildly gifted Mozart who–neither conscientious, nor devout–tossed off sublime music in the interludes of a life of “wine, women and song, and he didn’t sing much.”

    Nevertheless, at the end of each piece of limited, uninspired music, Salieri added a postscript, “Grazie Signore.” Thank you, Lord.

    Manning continues,“Grazie Signore, for other people who have greater gifts than mine.”

    And that was a prayer I had never thought of praying.

     
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  6. Sara

    I’ve felt like that beforehand, Dani. It’s important to love yourself always. You are a very special, unique and beautiful girl Dani. I love you!

     
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    1. Dani Erika (Post author)

      I would like for you to share more with me with thst if you do not mind .

      Love with all my heart.

      Love 

      Dani Girl 🙂

       
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